Natural Hair and Dating

Ladies, it's a new day. Hair comes in all shades, lengths, prices, and yes, TEXTURES! Some of these variations can be found all in one head of hair! One of the concerns a woman may have before deciding to go natural, is the male reaction. How will men react to my non "Optimum Cared", non "Dark and Lovelied" hair?? Due to the images that saturate the media (including music videos), we are being led to think there is only one form of hair beauty. It's easy to believe that men will only find straight, 'blowing in the wind' hair, attractive. Ladies, this is not the case! There are men out there who absolutely adore natural hair, who prefer it, in fact. Yet, there are also some who do not adore it, and may be rather obnoxious in sharing that. Let me share one of my "Horrific Hair Ignorance" stories with my natural sisters.

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Imagine meeting a man who seems to have it all, for you. He's doing all of the right things, thus far. He's complimentary, smart, and "has it together" as we like to say. Anyway, this was my scenario. Well, one day, I was having a great "getting to know you" conversation with *Keith. (*Names have been changed to protect the stupid) Anyway, we talked about everything from spirituality, to favorite foods. And then, Keith says, "Oh yeah, I had meant to ask you. Do you think this 'hair thing' is just a phase?". He says that while pointing to my hair, and making a scrunched up face. OK, ladies, just the delivery was a hot, dumb mess. "Hair Thing??" What's worse, he was dead serious. So after that, and discovering other unflattering things about him, we parted ways. I grabbed my Shea butter and wide tooth comb, and stomped out of there! LOL

This is a prime example of a man, not accepting you for you. It's hair, it doesn't make you. The thing is, if a man has that much of an issue with hair, it shows a very shallow side of him. This will cause serious problems in the future. There is nothing wrong with men having a hair preference, but to down talk a woman, or negatively pressure her to change it, is not right! Have you had some ridiculous comments in dating situations, which helped you to weed out the shallow? Share them here!! We must support each other.